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How to Communicate With an Ex-Boyfriend

by Crystal Green

Deciding to deal talk to your ex again must be handled with kid gloves. A host of reasons exist as to why you may want -- or need -- to chat with him, such as getting the last of your relationship dissolved or, on the other end of the spectrum, trying to get back together. No matter what your reason, you can communicate with him in a manner that gets your point across in the best way possible.

Remember where you two left off. If things were heated and fiery, you will need to handle approaching him in a way that's much more sensitive than if you both have been cordial since the split. Gather your topics and talking points together roughly so you don't contact him with no purpose and instead have a plan for what you wish to talk to him about.

Contact him and let him know you're interested in talking to him. Ask him how he's doing or how he's been. Offer small talk to feel him out and see if he seems okay with speaking with you. Ask him if he's available to talk to you when you call or if he'd be interested in getting together to chat.

Get to the point once you have his attention. If you're looking to rekindle the relationship or are at least open to the idea of spending a little time with him to gauge your feelings, let him know that you've been thinking about him. According to a Public Opinion Strategies poll reported in a Cosmopolitan Magazine article, about 50 percent of men surveyed still pine over their exes. Take into account based on the nature of your relationship and the way things ended, the likelihood that he may be interested in exploring moving forward with you.

Leave things up to him. Not only do you not want to come off as desperate, but you don't want to come on too strong either. If he's not quite ready to communicate with you yet, put all of your cards on the table letting him know your reason for contacting him and allow him to follow up.

About the Author

Crystal Green is a marketing and event management consultant specializing in non-profit organizations and small businesses. Green spent the last seven years working for a statewide education association directing their trade publications, writing articles for programs' training teams and other event-related freelance projects. Green hold a Bachelor's degree in Journalism, and is currently working on advanced degrees.

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