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Child Rearing Problems

by Darlena Cunha, studioD

Children can be one of life's greatest joys, but distressed parents sometimes have a different view. Whether dealing with tantrums, tears or incessant bickering, child rearing presents a long list of challenges. It is critical to assess potential problems as they arise so you can handle the problems with a firm and reliable parenting position. Such consistency will, in the long run, provide the rewards that, on many days, seem fleeting.


For a younger child, you will need to deal with stubbornness by redirecting his focus in a gentle, yet firm, manner. If your preschooler is insisting on taking his sister's coloring book, show him another fun puzzle or game. You can begin by playing yourself to grasp his interest. Say something such as, "Look at this puzzle! I just put two of the pieces together by myself. Do you think this pieces goes here or here?" You are simply redirecting his focus. Often, for older children, you might need to be stern to let them know that your decision is final. Always reiterate your love for them and let them know that your rules are there because you love them.


Out of stubbornness comes sass, but online news magazine Live Science, which covers top scientific breakthroughs and research ventures, says not to worry about a little pushback from your kids in an article titled "10 Scientific Tips for Raising Healthy Kids." You'll need to set the boundaries, and whether you get a tantrum or an eye roll, those rules must be followed. One of the biggest problems encountered in child rearing is consistently showing your child that you are in charge. You want to encourage individuality and strength of spirit so your kids won't be bullied by others. When they talk back to you as preschoolers, be firm and direct with them. As they grow into teenagers, acknowledge the behavior so that they don't think they're getting away with it, but don't let their actions aggravate you.

Instilling a Moral Compass

One of the biggest challenges of parenting is guiding your children to become responsible adults. Let your child know when something is wrong and show them what you are doing about it, according to an article in "Psychology Today." Start when they're little. If you see a child hitting another child, for instance, you can turn to your son and tell him that's not right. If no adults are handling the problem, go over and gently break it up. Then explain to your child what you did and why. As your child grows, remain a constant source of backup for him, so he knows he can always come to you with any dilemma, but encourage him to think through his problems and come up with a solution on his own.

Being Accessible

From dawn until dusk, if you're not feeding him, you're changing him, and if you're not soothing his tears, you're playing games with him. Still, you might need to increase your attentiveness a bit more. Kids feel needed and loved through actions and words. They need that constant validation that only a caring parent or guardian can give. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests putting away the DVD players and computers and engaging in family-fueled activities such as board games or simple conversation. Try to go one step beyond what you think necessary. Instead of just dropping your child off at practice, watch the games. Instead of simply setting your toddler up with crayons, watch him color, teach him how to hold the utensil. These things work at any age.

About the Author

Darlena Cunha has been a writer and editor since 2003. She has a Bachelor of Arts in journalism and a Bachelor of Science in biology from the University of Connecticut. Cunha is also completing her master's degree in mass communication.

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