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Child Rearing Methods

by Tamara Runzel, studioD

Parenting would be simple if only there was a guidebook to tell you how to raise your child. Unfortunately, there isn’t. All children are different, so what works for one child might not work for your child. Child rearing methods generally are a combination of parental affection toward children, and parental demands and restrictions on children. There are four general types of child rearing methods. Most parents lean toward one type, although they might use each type at some point in their child rearing.


Authoritarian parents have high expectations for their children and rarely show affection. Authoritarian parents run a family more like a dictatorship -- what they say goes and a child’s input isn’t welcome. Praise and encouragement is rarely ever given and negative consequences are used frequently without explanation. Children raised in an authoritarian household frequently are unable to solve problems creatively and either rebel or become passive in life.


Permissive parents want their child to have everything. They give lots of love, but not guidance or discipline. Rules are rarely ever set and enforced even less. Permissive parents are more interested in serving as their child’s friend than their parent. Children raised in a permissive family don’t know about boundaries or limits. Because of this, children generally have a hard time adjusting to the outside world where there are boundaries. Children raised with a permissive parenting style also frequently have low self-control and are impulsive and rebellious.


Uninvolved parents are neither too strict or too relaxed, they’re just not involved. Uninvolved parents don’t spend much time with their children and generally devote most of their time to a job, social life or other interests. When they are around, uninvolved parents might feel uncomfortable in the role of parent because they don’t spend much time with their children. Sometimes, one parent is uninvolved because they believe the other parent is taking care of the parental duties and they aren’t needed. Children raised in an uninvolved family generally have low self-esteem and self-confidence, and are poor achievers.


Authoritative parents show affection toward their children, but also set boundaries and limits as they raise their children. Authoritative parenting is seen as the most balanced approach to child rearing. Parents are nurturing and supportive, but also clearly lay out rules and consequences. If a child disagrees, they are willing to listen even if it doesn’t change the outcome. Consequences are explained and are delivered in a calm, non-judgmental way. Authoritative parents serve as role models for their children and show respect for each other as well as their children. Children raised in an authoritative household usually have good self-control and strong confidence, and tend to succeed in the outside world.

About the Author

Tamara Runzel has been writing military, parenting, family and relationship articles since 2008. Runzel started in television news, followed by education before deciding to be a stay at home mom. Her articles have appeared in military publications as well as numerous online publications. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in communication from University of the Pacific.

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