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How to Cheer Up Your Girlfriend When Her Grandmother Died

by Erin Schreiner

The death of a grandparent can bring with it an assortment of emotions. If the girl you love has had the unfortunate, but unavoidable, misfortune of losing her grandmother, being there to support her and cheer her up is a kind thing to do. While you certainly won't be able to take away all the sting associated with this loss, kindness and consideration on your part may help her better come to terms with it and get back on track a bit more quickly.

Let her talk about how she feels. When greving, sharing your pain can be beneficial. Give your girlfriend the opportunity to let out her emotions by being willing to sit and listen to her. Don't push her to speak about her grandmother, but if she wants to, be there to support her and provide a shoulder to cry on.

Surprise her with a thoughtful gift. Showing your girlfriend that you support her is a wonderful way to help her feel less alone in her grief. You might get your girlfriend a surprise bouquet of flowers for no reason other than to show her that you care. You could also go the extra mile and get her something related to her grandmother, like a locket featuring a picture of this beloved relative.

Take her away. Sometimes, getting away from it all is a helpful way to move on from the heartbreak associated with death. After things are settled and the memorial and funeral are over, plan a weekend away for your girlfriend. Take her to a secluded cabin or a nearby coastal area and spend the weekend having fun, relaxing, and letting go of all worries.

Be patient. As much as you dislike seeing your girlfriend down in the dumps, when you lose someone, time is the only thing that will really heal the wound. Don't feel like you're failing her if your romantic attention doesn't immediately brighten her disposition. Instead, be supportive for as long as she needs, giving her time to go through the grief process.

About the Author

Erin Schreiner is a freelance writer and teacher who holds a bachelor's degree from Bowling Green State University. She has been actively freelancing since 2008. Schreiner previously worked for a London-based freelance firm. Her work appears on eHow, Trails.com and RedEnvelope. She currently teaches writing to middle school students in Ohio and works on her writing craft regularly.

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