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How to Calm a Clingy Newborn

by Amy Phoenix, studioD

Some people refer to the newborn period as "babymoon." Mom gets to rest and enjoy her baby while dad gets to pamper her and figure out where he fits in. However, when a newborn is fussy and clingy, you might find yourself feeling frustrated and unable to really enjoy these first few weeks. Add in some 60-second stress relief techniques and a safe baby carrier and you will be on your way to those desired heart melting moments with your baby.

One Moment at a Time

Practice calming yourself first. Babies pick up on the energy of their caregivers. If mom and dad are unusually stressed, the child will feel it. You can find solace in as little as 60 seconds with meditation, visualization, conscious relaxation, prayer, yoga or another relaxing and centering activity, according to "Parents Magazine." Before and as you calm your newborn, close your eyes for a few minutes, notice the gentle rhythm of your breath, allow your shoulders to relax and see yourself calm with your baby.

Wear your baby in a safe, soft baby carrier for mutual calming and comfort. Newborns might be clingy and fussy because they want the closeness and comfort of mom. The womb experience actually lasts 18 months and wearing your baby can contribute to less crying, more learning and more organization, according to AskDrSears.com. Babies have a need for connection and learning about their environment by watching those around them. Choose a sling or other carrier such as the Baby K'tan and wear your baby daily, as often as desired. Connect with Babywearing International for support to wear your baby.

Ensure that your baby's needs are met. Newborns need to be fed every two hours, or more often if mom is working to establish a strong milk supply and baby is hungry, according to Kelly Bonyata, a certified lactation expert who writes at Kellymom.com. Change your baby's diaper if necessary, offer a different environment such as low light or one with a bit of stimulation like soft music. Sometimes changing positions can help as can some fresh air with a walk outside.

Crying is a signal to be honored, according to author and psychologist Aletha Solter of Aware Parenting Institute. Newborns cry to communicate, crying leads to a protective response in parents and it's natural and healthy to respond to a crying, clingy newborn, according to AskDrSears.com. Instead of allowing your baby to cry it out by leaving him alone, Solter suggests calming yourself and listening as you hold your baby and he releases stress through crying. Sometimes babies can benefit from crying to release in the loving arms of a caregiver and as you learn your baby's cues and needs you will be able tell when this will be helpful.

About the Author

Amy Phoenix began writing professionally in 2005. Her work has appeared in various online publications, including Mothering. Phoenix is a certified parent educator, trained meditation facilitator, and enjoys writing about natural health, parenting, spirituality, and organization.

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