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How to Get a Boyfriend Interested Again

by Lindsay Pietroluongo

Enduring a breakup can be extremely difficult, even if you feel that breaking up was the right thing to do. However, if you and your boyfriend have broken up, but you feel like you're having a change of heart, you may be preoccupied with how to get him back. If you truly feel like you want to be back in a relationship with your ex, there are a few techniques you can try that will help you along your path.

Give him space if you've just broken up. While you may know for sure that you want to get back together with him, your ex may need some time and space to see what life is like without you. He may soon start to feel like he wants the relationship back, too. In the meantime, explore the ways in which you can approach him and discuss having a relationship again.

Determine exactly why your relationship ended in the first place. Figure out what mistakes you made and what positive aspects there were to your relationship. If you get to the point where you contact your ex or have a conversation with him, you'll need to have a clear idea on exactly what happened between the two of you. This is particularly important so that you can both prevent the same problems from occurring in the future.

Meet up with your ex. Set up a meeting via phone and pick a casual, public place that you've never been to together; you don't want to bring up memories of your relationship that could possibly put a damper on your "date." Stay relaxed during your meeting so that you're both at ease. Discuss why the two of you broke up, and ask what he feels about the breakup. You don't want to put too much pressure on him right away; instead, you'll want him to leave your encounter feeling like you two have cleared the air and gotten rid of any negative feelings.

Form a friendship with your ex. Keep in mind that this tactic will only work if he's willing to be friends with you and if you think you can slow down your romantic emotions for the sake of rebuilding your friendship and relationship slowly. Getting back to why the two of you came together in the first place - because you truly liked each other - is a great way to restart your couple-hood.

About the Author

As a full-time writer in New York's Hudson Valley, Lindsay Pietroluongo's nightlife column and photos have appeared regularly in the "Poughkeepsie Journal" since 2007. Additional publications include "Chronogram," the "New Paltz Sojourn," "About Town" newspaper and "Outsider" magazine. Pietroluongo graduated from Marist College with a B.A. in English.

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