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How to Become a More Competent Communicator

by Vanessa Glass

Maybe you find yourself stuck in an awkward communication pause often, or feel as though you are not being understood in the way that you are meant to be. Both of these are a result of your communication skills. Here are a few simple steps to help you become a more competent communicator.

Be an active perceiver. Listen when it's your turn to listen, and you will be able to respond honestly from what the person has just said to you. Try to gather as much information as possible from the message and tone. Be ready to receive any messages and listen carefully.

Distinguish fact from inferences. Know what information is factual and what information is what you want to believe. Speak with knowledge.

Recognize not everybody is going to agree with you when you open your mouth. With different experiences and views, everyone's view on topics can't be the same . With each role we play, it makes us unique. Accept that another person's view may be different, but that doesn't mean that it is wrong.

Be aware of perceptions. You may view a message one way, but others can see it differently. Think about how people from different walks of life and pasts will interpret the words that you say before you speak.

Keep an open mind and voice. You have opinions and viewpoints that have developed over your lifetime. Because of this, it might be difficult for you to accept other people's opinions, but try to keep an open mind when talking to others. They might have something interesting to say and make you rethink your own perceptions.

About the Author

Vanessa Glass has been writing professionally since 2006. She also attended Grand Valley State University where she was a writing consultant for other students. Several of her writing pieces can be found online on eHow. Furthermore, she is a junior copy editor for one of her local papers and hopes to expand her experience in the field.