Dating is an important component of a happy relationship, especially in long-term marriages when the initial spark may have dimmed. Maintain the romance in your marriage by making time together a priority. Ask your husband on a date now and then, rather than waiting for him to make the first move every time. Enjoy seeing him light up with delight when he realizes that you have planned activities that revolve around his interests.
Plan your date before you ask your husband out. Check the calender and pick a day without commitments. Arrange for a babysitter if you have children, and set a budget for your activities. Plan something that your husband enjoys, perhaps something you do not normally do together. Professional sporting events, athletic activities, live performances, camping, academic lectures, movies, rock climbing and car shows are just a few of the things that make for an exciting date. Venture out of your comfort zone and try something new; show your husband that you care about who he is and his interests.
Prepare to ask your husband out. Instead of simply telling him you have a date planned, take a creative approach. Design a handmade card sprayed with perfume that tells him where and when to meet you. Create a photo collage with clues about what you are going to do together and see if he can guess what is planned. Consider a steamy text message that communicates your romantic longing for your husband and builds up excitement for the big day.
Create excitement around anticipation of the date. Give him a card with a hint about the date during a romantic candle-lit dinner at home, or meet him at work to surprise him during his lunch break. Wear his favorite outfit and let your excitement shine through. When date day comes, make sure you have everything ready ahead of time. Put golf clubs for a day of golf in the car, pack comfortable hiking gear for hiking or stash binoculars for the concert in your purse. The advance planning makes it possible to relax. Your care and hard work are sure to keep him interested, make him feel loved and get him excited to be with you.
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