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How to Annul a Marriage as Peacefully and Easily as Possible

by braniac

Having a marriage annulled is different than getting a divorce. When you file an annulment of a marriage, as far the law is concerned, your marriage is null and void, as if it never existed. There are rules to who is eligible for an annulment. Here's the how-to process.

Your circumstance must meet one of the following criteria to be eligible to receive an annulment: One or both parties were not old enough to enter the marriage contract; there is a close blood relationship between the parties; One party was still legally married when the current marriage occurred; One party was impotent and unable to consummate the union; One of the spouse's didn't have the mental capacity to enter into a marriage contract. Or the marriage was entered into fraudulently. This may be due to the concealment of impotence, criminal history, sexually transmitted diseases, etc.

Usually you must be married for less than four years to be able to file for an annulment.

If you feel your situation meets any of these criteria, you may be eligible to annul your marriage.

It's now time to contact a divorce lawyer. Do some research; read their website. Make sure you find someone who is compassionate about your situation so you feel supported. Don't be afraid to ask questions and be clear on how the lawyer's rates work. Do they charge for phone calls? What is their preferred method of communication?

Once a lawyer agrees to represent you, you will be given paperwork to fill out. This is where it helps to still be friends with your ex. You will need to provide detailed information on what you own, how much money you make, how you're dividing things and your reasons for requesting an annulment.

It usually takes about six months for an annulment to be processed, depending on your state.

The blessing of an annulment is if you didn't feel you had a "real" marriage, the law agrees with you! The "marriage" is deemed null and void legally, as if it never existed. So when you do find your soul mate, you are given a fresh opportunity to start again because it will legally be seen as your first marriage.

Items you will need
  • A good divorce lawyer
  • Understanding of the annulment laws in your state
  • About $2000-$4000.
  • A good relationship with your soon-to-be ex.

Tips

  • Have patience with the process. Before you know it, it will be over and you will feel you can truly move on with your life and be open to receive the love you deserve.
  • If you're having financial hardship, ask the lawyer if he/she is open to negotiating their price.
  • Lawyers work from retainers. If any of your monies are not spent on your case, they will be returned to you.

Warnings

  • A legal annulment is not the same as an annulment in the Church. If you are Catholic and want to re-marry in the church, see your local parish about the separate religious annulment process.
  • The laws are different with annulments since your marriage is not seen as being legit, so check with your lawyer when it comes to things like taxes, division of property, debts and spousal support.
  • While an annulment is quicker, easier and less expensive than a divorce, the emotional effects are no different so seek support to help get you through.