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How to Announce a Pregnancy to New Grandparents

by Stephanie Mitchell, studioD

Whether your parents and your significant other's have been anxiously awaiting your first pregnancy or are more relaxed about your timeline, chances are they will receive your big news with great excitement. There is no one right way to make the announcement, or a right time or place; how creatively you tell them and how long you wait are up to you and the other parent-to-be. Talk to your doctor about the risks of your particular pregnancy before you begin telling anyone, including the new grandparents -- knowing your situation can help you decide when to share the news.

Decide if you want to wait until the end of the first trimester -- or even longer -- to tell the grandparents. If your doctor says your pregnancy is relatively high-risk, or if you've struggled with infertility, you might not want to tell anyone for the first three months. On the other hand, you might want your parents' support in case something goes wrong. Determine what will make you most comfortable.

Consider if each set of grandparents will be willing and able to keep the news secret from the other set if they get the information first. If so, tell the different branches of the family in whatever order you prefer. If not, tell the more discreet grandparents first, or plan to tell them all at the same time.

Send distant grandparents a card or a gift that spills the beans when you're ready. For example, mail them matching "I'm the Grandma" and "I'm the Grandpa" shirts, and include a note saying "Do not wear until [your due date]," or send a bouquet of pink, white and blue flowers with a note saying "Your grandson or granddaughter can't wait to meet you on [your due date]." Mail the items several days before you plan to tell local grandparents.

Invite local grandparents to dinner around the time you expect distant grandparents to receive their items. Drop a series of hints during the dinner, and finish the meal with a final reveal. For example, you might come to dinner dressed in pink and your significant other in blue; set the table with cutlery designed for children instead of adults; and for dessert, bring out a cake that says "World's Best Grandparents" or something similar on it. See how long it takes them to figure it out.

Call your parents personally if you are estranged from them and you want them to know about your pregnancy, or send them a serious letter. Tell your parents how you feel about them being part of your child's life, and listen to what they have to say. If they seem distant, give them time to process the information before you contact them again.

Items you will need
  •  Pink and blue clothes
  •  Cake
  •  Grandma and Grandpa shirts
  •  Flowers
  •  Hobby items
  •  Sonogram


  • As an alternative to cards and flowers, you can use the grandparents' hobbies as a springboard for your announcement. For example, if they are fond of jigsaw puzzles, have a personalized puzzle made that says "Baby [Last Name], coming on [your due date]," and send them the puzzle in the mail; if they like gardening, send them cabbage seeds and a note saying "You'd better plant a cabbage patch -- a stork needs to land in it on [your due date]."
  • If some of the grandparents don't like surprises, keep it simple. Wait the number of weeks you've determined, then simply tell them that you're pregnant, either in person or over the phone. Alternatively, if you're talking in person, you can hand them a sonogram instead of telling them.
  • If your pregnancy is not good news, tell the grandparents directly and seriously, and wait a moment for them to absorb the information. Then explain how you feel, what you plan to do, and what kind of support you would like from them. Listen quietly while they answer, and be prepared for a gentle response or a harsher one. Have backup support in place in case they are unprepared to help you; for example, alert other relatives, close friends or your significant other's family that you might need them for assistance or comfort after talking to your parents.

About the Author

Stephanie Mitchell is a professional writer who has authored websites and articles for real estate agents, self-help coaches and casting directors. Mitchell also regularly edits websites, business correspondence, resumes and full-length manuscripts. She graduated from Syracuse University in 2007 with a Bachelor of Fine Arts in musical theater.

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