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How to Get Along With Your Spouse

by eHow Contributor

You married your spouse for sickness and in health, for better for worse, and for richer or poorer. Now the challening part is to get along with your husband or your wife. In this article, I will show some free tips how to get along with them.

First, in order to stay in a successful marriage, learn to love your spouse the way they are. Marriage is no fairtytale. You have to both work on your relationship together. If your spouse have some faults, that get on your nerves, talk to them about it and also, change yourself for the better, as well.

Talk to your spouse when they aren't busy and have a spare moment to discuss issues and concerns with them. If you have to talk to them immediately, ask if you could speak to them for a moment. Never argue or fight in front of your kids, go to the other room to discuss, or wait to resolve issues, when the kids aren't present. Do not call your spouse names or use foul language when trying to resolve issues with them. Avoid bickering with your spouse. Learn to disagree and accept that everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

If you and your spouse are mad at each other, resolve your issues before going to bed, so both of you can sleep soundly. Successful marriages and relationships, never go to bed angry.

When you and your spouse are speaking with each other, do not interrupt each other, as this can cause conflict. Let your spouse finish speaking before you speak and vice versa and learn to listen to them and understand their perspective. People are more likely to listen to you after they finish speaking and venting.

Give compliments to your spouse daily. Especially, compliment your spouse for the things they do for you and verbally tell them that you appreciate it. Tell each other that you love one another. Show your spouse affection daily. Make an effort to hug and kiss your spouse everyday and often.

Plan a date night with your spouse, once a week, at least. Hire a sitter or have a friend or relative watch your kids (if any). Keep the romance alive in your relationship. Just because you became parents, doesn't mean you quit being friends and lovers. Or if you're on a budget and can't afford a babysitter, plan a date night at home with just the 2 of you, when the kids are asleep. For example, if you don't have time to cook, get frozen dinners at the store, so you can just heat them up or order take out, and place foods on nice plates, and put fancy tablecloth on your table, candles, and put music on to set the mood. Drink your beverages in wine glasses. Afterwards, rent a movie that you both agree on watching. Or play a boardgame.

Tips

  • before you wake up in the morning, ask yourself "What can I do to make my husband or wife's day easier?" and work on it.
  • to be in a happy marriage, both of you have to work on your relationship and make an effort.

Warning

  • never physically and mentally attack your spouse.