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Activities for Relationship Building in a Marriage

by Alizah Scherr

No matter how in love we are with our partners, we can become bored over time. Sometimes a marriage may begin to feel stale or old, a definite sign that rebuilding is in order. If this feels like you, don't worry. There's always hope to spice it up.

Communication

Communication is an important part of any close relationship. Within marriages, however, it is vital. In fact, according to a June 1997 study published in the "Journal of Marriage and the Family," researchers found that wives' communication skills were good predictors of husbands' overall satisfaction. If you and your spouse do not communicate as well or as often as you used to, try some new activities to help spark discussion. One marriage improvement website, run by a married couple who are also certified marriage counselors, provides users with a list of 100 questions that couples can answer in order to deepen their communication. This website can be found at "http://mfgmarriage.com/100-questions-marriage/."

Walking

Walking isn't just good for your physical health, it's also healthy for your marriage. Exercise helps release chemicals in the brain which decreases stress and anxiety and boosts your mood. By going on a walk with your spouse, you take a break from your daily stress and provide an opportunity to communicate and reconnect, all while decreasing negative emotions and increasing positive ones. Try making this a daily ritual, where you'll reap both physical and emotional rewards.

The List

Sometimes when we're married for awhile we forget to appreciate one another and may even take for granted the support and kindness offered by our spouse. Sit down with your partner and make a list of all the things you are grateful for, whether it's how he always kisses you goodnight or never forgets to unload the dishwasher. Then swap lists with your spouse and see the things you do that he loves. Bonus points for performing more than one item per week from her list.

New Experiences

After awhile, we can get so bored with our every day routine that we forget there are sights, sounds, smells, and tastes out there that we have yet to experience. Sharing new experiences as a couple can be a great way to combat this boredom. Plan a vacation to an exotic spot you've never been to before. Research a new restaurant with a type of cuisine you've never tried. Pick an activity that the two of you have never done and set a date to try it. New experiences will not only stimulate your brain activity, they'll also stimulate your marriage.

About the Author

Alizah Scherr has worked as a professional school counselor in a public school system for more than five years. She has a master's degree in education and is certified as a counselor.

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